Meeting the parents of a future spouse can be nerve wracking. You want them to like you, you want to like them, You want to put your best foot forward and want to absolutely impress them. And many times in such an excitement, we end up overselling ourselves. We end up saying things about ourselves that are quite false, just in a bid to impress them. Honestly, there are some things that should be clear from the very beginning. And what are they? Read on:
1. Cooking – If you can’t cook. Just tell them. There is nothing wrong in not enjoying cooking. Save yourself from the embarrassment for when they will ask you to cook, and you will have nowhere to run or hide. The whole situation will not be very pleasant because for them, because at the end of the day, you did lie.
2. Working Hours – You may be working long hours, coming home at 10 pm, but just to impress them, do not lie about your work timings. This is going to be particularly hard to deal with post marriage because let’s face it, you work timings aren’t going to magically get shorter because you got married. You will only end up stressing yourself about home if you’re at work late, and about work, if you ever go home early.
3. Religious/Cultural Levels – If you have a low thresh hold of religious rituals or cultural rituals, make it clear. You don’t want to be forced for long hawans, or poojas, or rituals that make you uncomfortable after you get married. And it’s not just limited to rituals. It may even come down to ‘don’t cut your hair on Thursday’ or ‘don’t eat chicken on Tuesdays’. Your in-laws may not say this with the intention of imposing, but because you have given them the idea that you do believe in such things, they will want you to follow it. And this may lead to an ugly situation when you decide to have kids.
These lies may seem small at the moment.
MIL: Do you cook?
Non Cooking You: Umm.. yeah, sometimes. A few things here and there.
See how it may seem like not that big a lie? But the fact is, it may save you at the moment, but lead to far bigger consequences later on. So stay on the safe side, girls. Don’t lie to impress. You’re already awesome!